I was reminded that this "family vacation" might not be so much fun for him last night, when I read on Facebook that he "didn't feel good and wanted to go home." Uh-oh. We had spent the first two days settling in and had overlooked Trent a bit in the process - we hadn't really planned anything fun for him so far. That would have to change. My first strategy was to get him off the iPod and get him to interact with us and the rest of the family.
I said, "Hon, you know, you can talk to people."
He said, "Mom, I don't even know these people. What am I supposed to say?"
Well, I could see his point there - a lot of the people I don't really know either. I do a lot of smiling and nodding. But he is only 12 years old. Bottom line is - these aren't his peeps.
Since Chloe was doing just fine, we needed a little quality time with Trent. I suggested we play a card game. He was agreeable so we sat out on the porch where we could get some fresh air and ocean breeze and I taught him how to play 500 Rummy. Great call. By bedtime, we had been joking and laughing Connection was restored.
It occurred to me that I have to show my not-so-laid-back-kid how to kick back and relax on vacations like this. What do we do when we have down time? How do we stay connected to the family without hiding behind technology? In other words, how do we unplug? This is something I have to model for this child who is so much like me it is spooky. What does he see my doing? Resting, doing suduko puzzles, and reading.
Our first order of the day tomorrow: beach time.
This timed out perfectly because Chloe ended up going into town with her aunt, uncle & cousins. That left time for us to spend with Trent. We had a lovely lunch together - Trent's choice (roti!)
Then we headed to Bathway, our favorite beach. From the minute the kid hit the blue-green water, a smile never left his lips.
He had more fun jumping the waves, diving into the surf, building sandcastles with Dad and burying Mom in the sand. Trent and I even battled our way through the rough surf, trying to climb to the top of the rocks, before we gave up after feeling like our lives were in danger.
But in the process, we made a memory! We cooled off with cold sodas and drove to Levera beach at the northern tip of the island and walked around.
We finally headed back home, full of sun and sand, arguing over who got to shower first.
It is a juggling act, this parenting job. And vacations are no exception. In fact, I would say that vacations intensify the juggling! Not only do we have to budget for the trip and make the plans. We also have to shop and pack and unpack and entertain. And then we have to check in: Is he doing okay? Is she? Are they drinking enough water? Are they pooping regularly? Are they homesick? If they are having a hard adjustment, we have to figure out ways to help make it easier.
We gain so much when we come to Grenada.
We get a true life experience vs. a tourist experience.
Ryan and I reconnect with family and friends.
Our children get to experience the culture where their dad grew up.
They get to meet the family members from the Grenada side of their family tree.
That is a gift.
And we have to balance this with the fact that it is a vacation for the children, too. They need to experience the fun of a vacation as well.
Today we are half-way through our trip. We each made a list of the fun things we still want to do. We are having a blast, planning our last week, slowly crossing the items off our list.
Before we know it, we will be home; our days in Grenada will feel like a dream.
Today we will enjoy each moment.